Breaking the news about divorce to anyone can cause a great deal of stress and anxiety. So, how can you let others know that you are getting divorced in a way that’s comfortable for you? The important thing to keep in mind is that there is no right or wrong way to tell anyone you are getting divorced. It is a deeply personal situation. Although how you choose to deal with the situation is entirely up to you, we have decided to share some techniques that have been successful for others in the past.
Let’s start with who you should inform, and how you should inform them. We would recommend starting with the people in your life that you are closest with before moving on to distant connections.
1. Your Children.
This is likely one of the most important conversations you will have. Check out our blog post here for detailed advice on how to tell your children you are getting a divorce.
2. Your Inner Circle
The inner circle consists of the people closest to you such as your parents, siblings, or a best friend. Your divorce is likely to have an impact on everyone inside of your inner circle, causing feelings of sadness and also confusion about their future relationship with your Spouse. Psychology Today recently wrote an article about how to tell people you are getting a divorce; they mentioned that this is a great opportunity to let others know how you are viewing the divorce. Saying something like “It’s amicable, and we wish each other well. We think it’s best for us both. Our son is happier having so much one-on-one time with each of us,” will provide reassurance to the people in your inner circle and clear up feelings of confusion with regards to their relationship with your partner. No matter how you choose to break the news to members of your inner circle, it is probably best to sit down with them and talk about the situation in person, explaining your reasoning for divorce in enough detail that the members of your inner circle are not left with major questions or confusion.
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3. Your Co-Workers & Boss
How you choose to inform your coworkers and boss that you are getting a divorce will likely depend on your relationship with them. If you have a close relationship we would recommend bringing the subject up yourself in a meeting or during a coffee break, so they hear the news from you directly. If you are acquaintances, it's probably best to tell them if the opportunity arises.
4. Your Childs Teacher or Caregiver
If your children are young enough, it may be beneficial to inform your childs teacher or caregiver of your divorce. This is a major life change that can have a huge impact on their education. In fact, a study from 2015 shows that 94% of teachers feel it is important for parents to inform them of a divorce or separation. We would recommend sending an email or making a phone call to the teacher explaining the situation without going into too much detail. Make sure to invite the teacher or caregiver to bring up any changes in your child’s behaviour as well as any adjustments you will be making to their pick up/drop off schedules. Changes in pickup/drop off schedules can be easily organized by making a parenting plan, you can check out how to formulate an effective parenting plan here.
5. Everyone Else
It is entirely up to you whether you want to tell others about your divorce. In the past we have seen a few different approaches, the most common being only sharing the news of your divorce if you are asked about it, or if the opportunity arises. Others have decided to be completely straight up about their divorce. Some going as far as publishing news of their divorce in a local paper, or making a post on Facebook about the matter.
Whatever approach you decide to take - remember that it is entirely about what makes you comfortable. If your divorce is uncontested, working with Thistoo will make the process that much easier. Thistoo provides you with all the tools needed for an uncontested divorce and will generate your divorce documents for you. Try it today to see how Thistoo can help you.