As seasons change and we enter the official summer months, we at Thistoo are ready for certain seasonal trends, boots turning to sandals, more vacation taking, but we wondered can divorce be seasonal? The idea of divorces being quantified and tracked for seasonal patterns seems odd but researchers have actually found pretty compelling evidence that divorce may follow seasonal patterns.
Researchers at the University of Washington created a diagram of divorce filings per month for 14 years, and the results show divorces consistently peaked at two times during the year; March and August. The “cat-shaped” diagram follows a “domestic ritual” calendar, which could make it easier to predict when filings will increase, it is usually on the heels of these “family rituals” that divorce will occur.
Both winter and summer holidays are usually sacred family time, where divorce filings or marital issues can be considered inappropriate to discuss or act upon. The holidays or change of seasons can represent expectations or hope for a new start, something different, or an optimistic outlook, unfortunately if holidays do not live up to the expectations they are built up to be, this could be detrimental to a marriage.
This means that shortly after winter and summer holidays are two big time periods to watch for, especially for couples with children, troubled couples will make a final attempt to have a happy family Christmas or do a family/couples summer trip in hopes to reconcile. While the spike in August makes sense, especially for couples with children who may want to file before the school year starts, the spike in March is a bit puzzling. After the Christmas holidays, when money issues start to occur, would be the assumed time people would want divorce, the explanation for the delay; “couples need time to get finances in order, find an attorney or simply summon the courage to file for divorce” one of the researchers suggests.
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Think you could be approaching one of these periods? Here are some things to look out for.
Having excessive fantasies of escape, or feeling relieved and liberated at the thought of divorcing
Lack of affection, both physically and emotionally
There is no communication between spouses, some couples may find they stop sharing news with their spouse or they have no urge to improve communication
You go fight to fight, every thing they do seems to irritate you and vice versa and nothing is forgiven or resolved
Finally, you want it to be over